i bought my 2007 r6 back in march out of crate .i've been riding it since and the factory suspension settings just felt too stiff for me so i set both the front and back on the softest settings and now it feels ok .
I actually just got mine set up by a pro. I weigh 150ish, and he wound up setting the rear and the softest setting and the front at the 2nd or 3rd to the softest. So saying wrong for him is not correct.
What parts did you set to the softest settings? Compression? Rebound?
Check around to see if there's a shop that will set your suspension settings for your weight and riding ability. It shouldn't cost more than $40 and is sooooo worth it. They should have you get on and off the bike a couple of times to set the correct sag (basically the distance the bike sinks when you sit on it) and make other adjustments according to how and where you ride. They may also put a zip-tie around your front fork, have you ride, then come back and look how far down the zip-tie went and readjust your settings. In any case it's definitely worth doing.